We are called to choose relationships over being right
by Jane Mueller
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Let us then pursue what makes for peace and mutual upbuilding (Romans 14:19).
Read Romans 14:13–23
We live in a time when differences can quickly divide us – whether it’s how we vote, what we eat, how we care for our health, how we educate our children, or how we interpret social justice issues. Social media amplifies these differences and can turn even minor disagreements into battlegrounds. But Paul reminds us that the way of Jesus is different.
In his letter to the Romans, Paul addresses ‘disputable matters’ – those grey areas in which faithful Christians may hold different views. In the early church, it was about food laws and special days. Today, it might be about worship style, political opinions, climate action, or how we engage with technology and culture. Paul’s message still rings true: don’t let these issues become stumbling blocks.
Instead of judging or trying to convince others that our way is best, we’re called to pursue peace and mutual encouragement. Our love for one another should outweigh our need to be right. This means laying aside our preferences for the sake of another’s peace. After all, love doesn’t break – it builds. The true markers of God’s kingdom aren’t found in opinions, but in integrity, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.
Love means sometimes staying silent when we want to argue. It means choosing relationship over being right. It means remembering that the person who disagrees with us is someone Christ died for.
In a polarised world, what if the church became known for its radical love? What if we were the people who made space for difference without division?
What ‘disputable matters’ would you like to let go of, in support of love coming to life?
Lord, in a world quick to divide, teach me to choose the path of peace. Help me to build others up, even when we don’t see eye to eye. Help me to love others more than I love being right. Let me be known not by how strongly I argue my views, but by how fiercely and deeply I love. Amen.
Jane is a former Lutheran school principal and now serves as Governance Leadership Director for Lutheran Education SA, NT & WA. Jane has a keen interest in psychology, enjoys hiking and loves learning about and trying new things.
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